I got off the phone with my boyfriend.

“I am done being the good kid, I am done being everyone's workhorse, I am done being responsible for everyone – I will choose myself”

I went on a rant, and cried to him.

I will save you the details of the dramas that led to this tearful conversation.

But I think if you are like me who were raised to be good, dutiful daughters.

It is time to change and build better companies.

The companies that function without you.

The companies that you can take vacations from

The companies that do not sap your energy and make you cry your eyeballs out at 11pm on a Tuesday night

It is time for a change. And here is the simple step:

• Remove the toxic parents from your life. You are now owed them any dinners, lunch or even a quick chat. There is no justice to be served. You just simply focus on being happy today.
• The new intern can learn how to think for himself. Let them make mistakes, let them plan, let them lead
• You shall not undervalue your time, your judgement, your intuition, your attention. Everyone must earn your time unless proved otherwise.
• Learn system design, learn human motivation, learn how Queen Bee lays still and barely move, yet thousand and thousands of motivated workers still work hard for her.
• Take days off. Do think weeks, do spa weeks, do the pamper week. Your business will survive. And if it cannot afford you a vacation. It is time to declare a personal bankruptcy for duties and obligations.
• Do checklists. It saves lives.
• Dump all your thoughts and commitments to a digital system. I use Notion. My life gets 10X better.
• CEOs need play time, rest time, creative times as much as heavy duty time.
• Learn to yield maximum impacts with minimal efforts.
• Be patient and think long term
• Be an optimist, always.
• Know your worth.
• The companies of your dream will build themselves.